Dog Calming: How To Make Your Lab Less Excitable

how to calm down a dog

In how to calm down a dog, you’ll discover the kinds of activities that are calming for dogs, and those that get them excited. We’ll look at when you can expect your Lab to calm down and I’ll show you some great dog calming techniques to get you through those difficult months with your bouncy and excitable young Lab

A great many people search the internet for help with getting their dogs to calm down. If you own a young lab between 7 and 8 months of age, It probably won’t surprise you to discover that more people are looking for “when do Labs calm down” than any other breed of dog.

It’s not just because Labs are especially bouncy of course, but also because they are popular and big. A a large bouncy dog usually makes more impact on those around him than a small one

In this article we look at the peak age for excitable behavior in Labradors, and offer you some tips for coping with your lively young dog.

“When do Labs calm down?” someone asked me recently.

“He is just such a handful!”

And it’s true, a boisterous young  Labrador can be quite a handful.

But fortunately there are several things that we can do as their owners to help our young Labs relax and calm down a little. We’ll look at those in a moment.

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Puppy Bonnie laying calmly in her crate

8 months old and the boisterous stage

It is not unusual for young labs of between 8 and 12 months of age,  to start causing injuries through their exuberance. This is a very bouncy age for my Labs and probably will be for your Lab too.

Knocking children over, barging into old ladies,  and jumping up at visitors are common crimes.

This is the peak age for excitable behavior.  It can feel as though every social occasion is doomed to end up in tears, and it is no coincidence that this is the age at which many rescue dogs are given up to animal shelters or simply abandoned.

When do Labs calm down?

Labs can be a little later than the average puppy in reaching the point at which you suddenly realise your pup is all grown up. But hang on in there, it will come!

With the right handling techniques, most young Labradors begin to calm down around their first birthday.  And are fairly ‘settled’ in temperament by the time they are eighteen months old.

It is important to recognise that it is possible to prolong the boisterous phase and make it much worse by making a few simple mistakes.

In a moment we’ll look at some ways to avoid some of the excitable puppy behavior that may be causing you problems. But first let’s look at how to cope when your Lab is on his worst hyper behavior

What do I mean by hyper dog?

A hyper dog is not a happy dog. He might seem happy as he leaps about – air nipping, barking, jumping at people, and so on. But he is actually a dog that doesn’t know where to put himself, and he is often actually quite upset.

Many people are quite shocked when the nice game they were playing with their young dog begins to get rougher and rougher. You may be tempted to shout at your dog if he nips you, or to give out a squeal.

Unfortunately, noises and angry behavior from you excites the dog more, until eventually he loses control completely

If you are scared, your dog will be scared too, and like most scared kids will behave even more inappropriately. So it’s really important that you intervene before things get to this point.

Remember that the hyper dog isn’t able to listen. He’s completely over the threshold and unable to calm himself. He needs you to help him.

How to calm down a dog – 5 steps

There are five different steps you need to complete in order to calm down a hyper dog.

The first two steps will help you cope with the situation when it arises. The remaining three steps will help prevent your dog having a hyper episode in the future

  1. Take control of your dog
  2. Calm your dog
  3. Change what you do around your dog
  4. Provide activities for your dog
  5. Teach your dog to relax

Let’s take each of these in turn

#Dog Calming Step 1:Take control of your dog

This is about physically managing your dog to make sure he doesn’t hurt you or anyone else. When your dog is over-excited you’ll need to take steps to control the situation

It is important to be able to control a lively young Lab and you’ll find this easier to do if he is wearing a body harness(paid link)*.

You do not want to have to fight to clip a leash on a 70lb dog while he is nipping at your sleeves or barking in your face, so have your hyper dog wear a training leash outdoors (instructions in that link) and a house line indoors.

Don’t take them off until you put him in crate or sleeping area and leave him on his own. Or until he has outgrown this silly phase!

Never use a choke chain or slip lead on a dog that has hyper episodes, he doesn’t know his own strength and he’ll hurt his neck.

The next step is to reduce the dog’s arousal or excitement levels. Let’s find out what is calming for dogs

#Dog Calming Step 2: Calming your dog

Outdoors, the best thing to do is to stop whatever you were doing with the dog when he got carried away and start briskly leash walking the dog up and down. Don’t hesitate, don’t try to engage a leaping, nipping dog in conversation – just pick up the leash and start walking.

Keep walking until the dog begins to relax as he walks along next to you.

If other people, children, or animals were exciting your dog, move him away from them.

Don’t forget to attach a training lead(paid link)* to the harness so that you can pick up the end and lead him quietly away when he is being silly.

Walking briskly but calmly around can help to lower your dog’s arousal level and let you get back in control of the situation.

Indoors you can use time out. Stop all play and place the dog in a crate or room by himself to calm down for a few minutes. Give yourself a chance to calm down too, before bringing the dog back out again.

Now don’t wait for another ‘hyper’ event, start putting the following steps into action to change the way you interact with your dog.

#Dog Calming Step 3 – change what you do around your dog

Very often the owners of the dog are unwittingly causing the excitability, or at least contributing towards it by their own behavior. It is not difficult to ‘wind up’  a young dog.

This is not your fault, it’s just that humans and dogs play differently and interpret one another’s behaviour differently. It’s a kind of language barrier if you like.

Add a very bouncy, friendly, young dog that everyone wants to play with to the mix and it’s easy to lose your way. Fortunately, you can soon put all this right.

Be low key

Lots of over excited greetings,  squeaky voices,  rewarding behavior when the dog leaps around, and a failure to reward when the dog puts his feet on the floor or stands quietly are a common cause of over-excitement in young dogs

To reverse this, you need to reverse your previous behavior Try to pretend to be underwhelmed by your dog. Talk to him quietly and calmly, and persuade other family members to do the same

Avoid physical play

Another common mistake that new puppy parents make, is getting involved in a lot of physical play with a large young dog.

Inexperienced owners and teenage children will often rough-house with a dog, pushing and pulling him, even rolling on the ground with him. This is something you will need to avoid completely in future. No more ‘physical play’.

Have a look at this article – how to play safely with your dog – for ideas for better ways to engage with your growing puppy

Reward the calm!

Your dog will be calm sometimes. Don’t ignore those times.

My husband took one of our dogs to the vet one time for a booster. In the waiting room was an elderly couple with a golden retriever. When they arrived,  the young dog lay down quietly and the owners ignored it completely, chatting to one another.

After a few minutes the dog whined and both owners turned to the dog and made a fuss of it.

They then started chatting again,  ignoring the now quiet dog.  Within a minute or two the whining began again.   And each time the dog whined,  the owners again paid it a shed load of attention,  and each time it laid quiet they ignored it.

Needless to say, within twenty minutes, the dog was whining almost constantly and starting to become agitated,  panting and pawing at the couple.  On and on they went,  encouraging and rewarding his stressed behavior.

They were no doubt convinced that the dog was upset because he was at the vets, when in fact he had been perfectly happy when he arrived.

Rewarding and reinforcing good, calm, behavior is really important.

#Dog Calming Step 4 Provide activities for your dog

Young dogs need exercise, mental stimulation and attention  But it needs to be the right sort of exercise and the right sort of attention.  Ignoring bad behavior, jumping, nipping and so on is important.  But it is not the end of the story.

Your young dog needs an alternative way of engaging with his family.

Labs are active, intelligent, sociable dogs and they need to be engaged in activities with a human companion every day for some time each day. The way to achieve this is through exercise, training and brain games.

Indoors, you can use puzzle toys* (paid link)and indoor games to entertain your dog in a calm and controlled way. Outdoors you can focus on training your dog to do what he was born to do – fetch stuff for you.

Buy yourself a couple of retrieving dummies(paid link)* and learn how to use them. Try to increase your dog’s daily exercise and to spend some of that time engaging with him in training exercises.

This will help him learn to focus on you and to enjoy the rewards that training brings.

Once you have got your Lab fetching simple retrieves, you can make these more complicated so that he has to work both his brain and his body to complete them.

Once his body and brain are tired, and you have put a stop to all rough play, you’ll find your dog’s behavior improving. But there is one more thing you can do to help.

#Dog Calming Step 5 – teach your dog to relax

This is the final step in the process and the icing on the cake. Dogs can be taught and encouraged to relax at home, and even in public places. You’ll find this a useful skill to teach your dog.

It’s a whole topic of its own. So do check out our Teach Your Dog To Relax article

What can I give my dog to calm down?

Some of you may have heard that there is a product called DAP which can help calm a dog. Or you may be wondering if there is some kind of drug that might reduce your dog’s hyper behavior

DAP is short for dog appeasement pheromone.  Even if it were desirable to reduce excitability with some kind of drug,  this is not the role of DAP.   The dap diffuser is intended to reduce stress or anxiety not excitement.

It may have an important role to play in dogs that are frightened of fireworks for example. But it isn’t going to make your bouncy dog any less bouncy.

It’s a good idea to have a chat with your vet if you are worried about your dog’s behavior. Especially if changes in behavior have been sudden, or if your dog seems to be showing signs of aggression.

Your vet may want to refer you to a behaviorist to help you with your dog. But he or she is not likely to want to prescribe any kind of drug to alter your dog’s activity levels. Even if that were possible.

The way out of your predicament with an excitable young Lab is to follow the steps outlined above. Here’s a quick summary of all the points we have covered

Slow and Steady

A young Lab who has frequent hyper episodes doesn’t understand how to interact constructively with people, and doesn’t understand what is acceptable behavior and what isn’t. He is very unsure where his boundaries lie, and quite apart from the misery it causes you, this isn’t a happy state for a dog to be in.

Your first step is to make sure you have the means to manage your dog safely during a hyper episode.

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Make sure your dog is wearing a harness and line so that you can control him, and remain very calm yourself. Stop all rough play and walk the dog around until he calms down.

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Once calm is restored you need to take steps to avoid overexciting your dog in future

If you are expecting visitors that you know enjoy deliberately winding up your  dog, it might be simpler to put him out of the way until they have gone. Show willing visitors how to reward the dog with a treat only when all four paws are on the ground or when he is sitting quietly in his bed.

Most are only too happy to join in the ‘training game’. Carry a clicker and treats around with you and treat the dog for calm behaviors whenever and wherever you can.

Remember that dogs do what works for them.

If your dog wants attention and you give it to him when he whines, barks, or jumps at you, he will whine, bark, and jump a whole lot more. If you play rough, he will play rough back. And he will not be able to control just how rough the game gets.

Take comfort in the fact that dogs learn fast, and most young dogs grow out of this phase very quickly if people around them are consistent and reward the right behaviors. You might also find it helpful to join our forum where you can chat to the many other dog owners who have been through what you are experiencing, and come out the other side in one piece!

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  1. How do u calm a Pitt mix from running and barking at thunder storms .? He runs so long and hard I think he’s going to give himself a heart attack.

  2. Hello Katherine,
    I feel your pain. I have a just over one year old chocolate lab, and yes, he is so wonderful and sweet and he loves to be with me, but also yes, he is exhausting. I completely understand when you say putting him to bed offers the same feeling of relief you experienced when putting your 2 year old child to bed. You expressed my sentiments exactly. I guess we just stick with it. Our dogs will grow up eventually.

  3. I have a female Boxer/Terrier mix I rescued from the Harrisburg Humane Society 6 months ago. She had been turned in as a stray who had obviously had puppies fairly recently. She had no ID and they could not tell me much about her except she was about 2-1/2 years old. I have owned dogs in the past and they have been different mixed breeds who have lived with me until they got old, sick and passed on. This dog, Julie, is a different kind of dog — very friendly, very sweet, very quiet at home with me — but has episodes of excitability. She is having behavior training with two trainers and responds well for them and also me to some extent. But when she has the episodes of excitability (usually when she is in the company of several dogs at a time particularly at doggie day care where she goes one day a week and loves it, and also this week at a group training session with several dogs where she thought she was back at day care and just wanted to play and jump around with them). She weighs about 60 lbs and is a very strong dog. I am 80 years old and in good health but today particularly she was impossible to control. She wanted to get into the play area where the dogs were barking. She pulled me very hard and although she wears an easy walker harness she pulled her body next to mine (left a large bruise on my leg and may have hurt her own leg since she is limping a little). She knows where she is going for this one day a week daycare and starts getting excited and making lots of sounds half way in the car ride. I noted from your article that one thing to calm her down is to walk her around outside the building before entering it. The women who supervise the dogs say that she plays with all the dogs and one thing they have noticed is that she walks calmly outside with one of them when they go out to relieve themselves. I should probably also ignore her instead of responding when she starts getting excited prior to arriving at the day care. When we go out for a walk I have been avoiding areas where there are dogs or people and she walks very calmly with me. It has been suggested that she attend more daycare visits. I have a big fenced in yard but when we are outside she seems bored unless a couple of little dogs who roam free come to the fence and they exchange barks. She has toys which we play tug with. I always carry treats which seem to be effective although not when she is in the excitability phase. Other than the above we do not do much and could do more. I’ll speak to her trainers (whom she seems to respect more than me). Julie is a very smart dog who catches on very quickly; maybe the brain games would interest her or the training dummy. One trainer has suggested that Julie might be a good service dog with training such as law enforcement or a school or nursing home visitor. She obviously needs more than the love and affection I give her.

  4. Dear Person
    Thanks for the info.
    We have a lab named Harry
    He adopted him when he was 6 months old
    He is with us since July 2015. We do not put him on leash
    but that allows him to go out in streets and stay there for hours
    When my daughter searches for him and he smells her around him
    he comes back home along with her.
    How to stop him going out and doesn’t come back for hours?
    Please guide us and oblige.